Shit Hole

I live in a shit hole.  I finally admitted this to myself as I sat on the edge of the bathtub scooping out coffee mugs full of water because my husband had taken a shower an hour ago and the tub had yet to drain.  As I emptied each mug in to the bathroom sink I listened to the tea pot whistle on the stove.  There were three more pots of boiling water heating up on the other three burners.  This is because the hot water heater in the house I rent barely supplies enough water for a five minute shower, let alone a bath.  At this time, however, I have a broken foot and taking a bath is just easier.  After manually emptying the tub I had my husband bring in the pots in the boiling water, which I mixed with the small amount of hot water and the large amount of cold water available from the faucet.  The house I rent has hopelessly clogged drains, no hot water, very poor insulation, no screens in the windows, and rattles every time the washing machine is on the spin cycle.  My child’s room does not have heat or an electrical outlet.  As I lay in the steaming, but rather shallow bath, I thought about why I live in a shit hole.  

I do not really live in a shit hole, at least by my standards.  Let me explain.  I have been to India.  I briefly stayed with a family in their home, which had bad plumbing and mold on the ceiling.  Their housekeeper washed all the clothes by hand, hunched over by the side of the bathtub, and then hung them up to dry.  To take a hot shower you had to turn on a hot water heater.  After waiting 20 minutes you could then take a warm shower for five minutes maximum.  They were an upper middle class Indian family.  During countless rickshaw rides through Delhi, I saw huge shanty towns.  Walking around at night, I would pass groups of people from the shanty towns huddled around trash can fires.  I have been to a third world country and seen how a lot of people around the world live, so when someone makes the comment, “oh, you don’t have a dishwasher”, which has happened more than once, I can’t help but think that individual is a stupid entitled pretty princess.    My experience with shit holes, however, extends beyond my visit to India and my current home.  

1998: I live in a house with five people and one bathroom.  Thankfully one of my roomates takes showers at the gym and two are filthy hippies who rarely bath.  The house is infested with ladybugs.  The walls are literally crooked.  The carpet is soaked with beer and cigarette.  It is beyond cleaning.  This house was condemned by the county two years after I moved out.  

2001: I live in the upper unit of a two flat in Chicago, which was once the attic of a single family home.  People who come over are in utter disbelief that my roommate and I  live in an attic in Chicago during the summer and do not have even a window air conditioner.  We are just that Boheme.  The fire escape, which is the only exit on our level of the house,  is one of those scary super steep wooden staircases that was added just to fulfill some housing code.  It is terrifying.

2004:  I live in an apartment with four people and one bathroom.  In this situation I am the pretty princess.  I have a futon; my other three roomates all sleep on the floor.  Aside from being crowded and lacking furniture it is actually a really nice apartment.  It is super cheap because it is in a seedy neighborhood.  The lease actually had some sort of clause stating that being a drug dealer was grounds for eviction.  Ah, Chicago. 

2007:  At this point I live in Seattle and I finally have my own one bedroom apartment with no roommate!  The worst thing about the building is the elevator.  It is a glass elevator that runs up and down the outside of the building.  A cab driver once told me that the building had been erected to house employees of the 1960 World’s Fair and that people used to drive by the building just to see the elevator.  The day I looked at the building for the first time one of the glass walls was cracked.  Gradually pieces of glass fell out until one was practically left standing on an open platform five stories above the ground.  The glass was eventually replaced, but that did not matter since the elevator was out of service half the time anyway.  Did I mention that it did not have a motion sensor and would just close on you?

The unit has gross carpet and these weird rolling closet doors that slide out of the door frame all the time, but for the most part it is a nice place.  I live there for several years.  The third year  I came home from a trip to find that the heating pipe above my bed had burst open.  For months there is a moldy dripping hole in my bedroom ceiling.  After putting in three repair requests I decide to not pay my rent to get some attention.  I get some attention in the form of an eviction notice.  I decide to continue this war with my slum lord by reporting him to the city.  He finally starts fixing it after he getting busted by the building inspector, but I am ready to move by that time.  My boyfriend has moved in with me by that point and we want a bigger home anyway.  Which brings me to my current shit hole.

We found an adorable one bedroom house at an awesome price in the Columbia City neighborhood!  It was built in 1907 and has hardwood floors.  Okay, it does not really have hardwood floors, but it has that tile that looks like hardwood flooring.  It even has an office.  There are no electrical outlets of heating vents in the office, but we could always bring in an extension chord from the living room.  We moved in, painted the walls new colors, and found some amazing vintage furniture at thrift stores.  We even bought a piano.  While we are very happy in the house, its flaws gradually started to bother us.  There are bugs in the summer because of the lack of screens.  Our heating bill is ridiculous in the winter because of the poor insulation.  Two years after we moved in we got married and had a baby.  The room without heat or an outlet is now our son’s room.  We keep his door open and jack up the heat in the living room so that it will heat his room - further increasing our heating costs.  While there was plenty of hot water when we moved in, the supply gradually got lower and lower.  We were going to let our landlords know, but then they announced they were selling the house, so we don’t see the point.  The house has been on the market for five months now and no one is interested.  If I had money for a down payment and some home improvements I might buy it myself.  As of yet, however, no one is interested.  Maybe because it is a shit hole.  

Throughout my twenties, I watched acquaintances, co-workers, and people in my family who are my age or younger buy houses.  Note that I did not mention “friends” in this list, because most of my actual friends live in homes similar to mine.  Like I said before, I do not really think this is a shit hole because I am the type of person who is grateful to have a roof over my head.  I can not help but ponder, though, do I think this way because I am a gracious and unmaterialistic person, or do I just have extremely low standards?  Do my low standards in housing carry over to other areas of my life.  Do I live in a mental shit hole?  Do I live in an emotional shit hole?  Do I live in a career shit hole?

As I ponder this, I think about one shit hole I managed to get out of: my job shit hole.  As a struggling musician I have worked many low paying day jobs were I made just enough money to get by.  I thought nothing of this when I lived in Chicago, because there are a lot of people who barely get by in Chicago.  As a single person in Chicago I worked with women who had multiple kids to support and made less than me, so I thought I was doing pretty well.  My idea of how much money I deserve to make changed after I moved to Seattle.  

Washington has the highest minimum wage in the United States.  There is no ghetto in Seattle.  Generally speaking, everyone has a higher standard of living in a city where the cost of living is about the same as Chicago.  For years I worked at a rather slow, overstaffed restaurant.  The management was a bunch of idiots.  The longer I lived in Seattle the more I realized that I was grossly underpaid.  I constantly met people who worked at Microsoft and Amazon who never went to college and lived in posh condos.  I figured that if they could make a decent living, I could too.  I raised my standards and admitted to myself that my job sucks and that I could do way better.  I got up one morning, went to the jobs section of Craig’s List, printed out of stack of resumes, and found myself a new job.  I still work there almost four years later, and am much happier and more financially stable.  My point is that I once I decided that I deserved a job where I am respected and paid well, instead of just being grateful to have a job, my life changed for the positive.

While I will never be the type of person who snubs a nice home because there is no dishwasher, I have decided that I should raise my expectations in housing.  My next home will be properly insulated and have enough hot water available to take a bath.  It will not have plumbing problems.  Maybe I should apply this practice to raising my standards to my music career as well.  While I will never be a total ingrate, as a whole lot of people are, my resolution for 2012 will be to have higher expectations my myself in general.  Perhaps the the first step to moving out a shit hole is not moving my belongings, but moving my head.

Keith

I met Keith when I worked in the dish pit in Thomas hall in 1996. He had a shy smile. He wore a goatee and had chin length sandy brown hair. Often he would put it up in a ponytail to reveal that the underneath layer was shaved. What first drew me to him was the K Mart vest. While washing dishes and frequently around campus, he would don a red vest worn by K Mart employees. It featured the K Mart logo as well as a white pin-on name tag that read SATAN. Alas, I imagined a trip to the fiery depths of K Mart, being forced to walk the isles of disposable crap made by Asian slave children, only to find that the journey ends by handing your cash to Satan himself, standing erect behind the register in his molten red vest and name tag.

We somehow started talking and were drawn to each other as he was an Art major and I was a Music major. He had a crush on me, and I found it hard to return his affection, as I was not all that physically attracted to him. I tried to avoid him, but it was impossible as most of our classes were in the same building and we frequently worked together. If I managed to avoid him I would come home to my dorm room to find that my roommate had scrawled “Satan called” on the dry erase board. His was persistent - and that was certainly worth something.

As I got to know him I realized he was a wounded bird, and a scary wounded bird at that. He was from a small town and grew up in a trailer with his father. His mom was a long haul truck driver. He told me that when he was a kid he was so fat that the only clothes he could wear were overalls. A sensitive broken bird trapped in his personal redneck hell, Keith devoted his life to drawing and studying art. In his new found reality he conquered hell, rising up as Lord Satan, losing the weight of his pork rind childhood and leaving his weary hometown to be an artist. He did have a dark side. He was depressed and angry. His musical taste was Marilyn Manson, and bands I has never heard of with names like Cannibal Corpse. We hung out a few times. We made out a few times. Despite the fact that he had painted “I AM THE GOD OF FUCK” on the wall above his bed with laundry detergent (you know, so that you can only read it when you turn on the black lights), I found out that he was actually a virgin. I most certainly was not going to be responsible for deflowering this sensitive buttercup in a Cannibal Corpse T shirt. Even if he claimed he just wanted to finally get laid, I knew he was an artist and believed in true love. He wanted the first time to be with someone who loved him. I wanted that for him too. He wore this bad mushroomy cologne that many young men wore. His room reeked of it. And he had played me Cannibal Corpse and it was lame - in a mildly scary way. I told him I just wanted to be friends.

Soon after he found a girlfriend who did lay him. She was very tall and blond. My friend Mike and I frequently spotted her in Thomas Hall eating dinner in a yellow sweat suit. Intrigued by Keith and my stories about him, he took to calling his new girlfriend Big Bird. They were an odd pairing - the captain of the basketball team and the Prince of Darkness, who now could rightfully call himself a "God of Fuck". I would talk to him pretty regularly and he would freuqently remind me of what I was missing, as his new lady friend claimed his skills had become superb. He still wore the mushroom cologne. I was happy for him and glad he was obsessed with someone else.

As much as I accuse Keith of having been a tortured soul, I should admit that I was not much better - at all. I was terribly depressed and wrote awful poetry. Here is an example titled Soup:

Blood flows down moist flesh

Proving flesh is more than dust

Skin, more than a hollow crust

Enjoy being tragic

And being clique

In this party mask

This twisted clown face

This needle pen spouts the dark part of blood

Bitter syrup of pain

Cold spreads through densened bones

Growing like a fungus

Spreading, breeding snow and ice

Only this will end this chill

Watching insides run out

Bubbling soup of all endeavours

Warm, like before entering this cold, cold world

Little remains

One night that spring I was feeling terrible and lonely. As I had no one to go buy liquor for my under-aged self, I combined the remaining liquor I had, which was a bit of Montezema tequila and a bit of Skol vodka. I downed the nasty concoction and marched over to Keith’s room, poetry books in hand. I stood on his roommate’s bed and performed a poetry reading for him. I then layed on his roommates bed and let Keith sketch me naked. It was a beautiful drawing. I told him he could keep it for his portfolio.

Eventually Keith broke up with Big Bird and for the last two years I lived in our college town he had a girlfriend named Nina. He was excited that she was bisexual. I regularly socialized with them and Keith remained ever creepy. He and Nina went the the local strip club together and he had started decorating his room with raunchy porn. One weekend he was over at the house I rented with my friend Mike and a few other roomates while Mike’s mom was visiting. Keith was wearing a shirt that said “Fuck you, you fucking fuck”. His mom said she didn’t like him. She sensed that there was something truly evil about him and she was afraid of him. Mike placated her by telling her that it was all an act and part of his persona - he was really harmless. I understood where his mother was coming from though - I frequently felt the same.

In May of 1999 I was done with all my classes and left to student teach in the Chicago area. I remember my last night in town: It started out with me and one of my good friends drinking gin and tonics while skinny dipping in the baby pool in our back yard. It ended with Keith and Nina stopping by to give me the nude drawing. I treasured that drawing. Unfortunately I accidently left it hanging in an apartment I lived in in Chicago. I left it hanging until that last minute because I did not want to damage it and then forgot about it amid the chaos of moving. The next day I went back to get it and my former landlord, an old Italian man who barely spoke a word of English, claimed he had not seen it. I hope he is enjoying it.

REM

My first exposure to REM was hearing Stand as the theme to the short lived television series, Get a Life. I was probably eleven, maybe I was twelve. My Dad loved this show. It featured Chris Elliot as a thirty year old paper boy who lived with his parents. At the time I thought that thirty was extremely old, you’d have to be a total loser to be a thirty year old paper boy, and that Stand was annoying (my preteen ears were still accustomed to listening to New Kids on the Block and Debbie Gibson). All three of these opinions would change. I now think thirty is pretty young. I think that being a paper boy at any age is pretty hip compared to, say, working in a gray cublicle for some random corporation, and I love Stand.

When I was eleven my family moved to a suburb of Chicago that did not have a whole lot of culture. Fortunately it was next to another suburb, Elmhurst, Illinois, where there was a small college, meaning that that the coffee shops and art house theatre I would discover as a teenager where not that far away. Elmhurst also had a better library, as my mom soon found out. Whenever she would take us to the library I would explore the music department and check out cassette tapes that “looked cool”. Some things I remember checking out were classical music, all sorts of ethnic music, new agey meditation tapes that were mostly synthesizers, The Dead Milkmen, and Document by REM. I liked Document. I dubbed it with my double cassette boom box.  It got lost in my dubbed tape collection and I forgot about it.

I became an REM fan in 1991 when I was a freshman in high school. Out of Time had been released and Losing my Religion was a radio hit. I bought the album (we’re still talking about cassette tapes here). The album felt like autumn. It had a haunting sadness to it at a time when I was just starting to discover haunting sadness. I thought the liner notes with the cartoon about the marble staircase were really deep. I listened to it on my walkman on the bus. A lot.

My first real romance was set to Automatic For the People. I was a freshman in college and I fell in love with an REM fan. He kind of looked like a young Michael Stipe with his blond fro. His band did a cover of Drive. That said, my first major breakup was also set to Automatic for the People, followed by a period of extreme lonliness and depression where I would constantly listen to the song Try Not to Breath. To this day both Out of Time and Automatic are a little painful to listen to - but in a sort of bittersweet way. They both take me back to a time in my life when emotions were extremely intense, probably because they were new and I did not know how to deal with them. Teenagers don’t know that everything will (usually) be okay. Knowing that everything will be okay leads to an emotional boredom young people have the burden and luxury of not knowing.

I continued to buy their new releases, and got all of their albums from the 80’s when I was too young to be a fan. Why am I such a fan of this band? Here are some reasons:

1. REM is “arty”. 

While I often regard arty as being pretentious today, I became a fan when I regarded “arty” as being mysterious. The mumble mouth vocals on some of the early albums are arty. The fact that they did not print lyrics (until the late 90’s) because - to paraphrase Michael Stipe - printing only the lyrics is like printing only the bass line, is ARTY. The fact that Michael Stipe suposedely recorded the vocals to all the early albums naked in a dark room? Really arty. These guys lived in the basement of a church and only shopped at the thrift store. While my own thrift shopping eventually became an economic necceccessy, it started in a quest to be as arty as REM. This band is shrouded in romanticism and folklore. I don’t even care how much of it is true. It is my fairytale.

2. REM is intellectual. 

 Their songs speak of Andy Kaufmann (Man on the Moon, The Great Beyond), Lenny Bruce (It’s the End of the World as We Know it), Andrew MacCarthy (Exhuming McCarthy), environmental activism (Fall on Me), Jesus (Talk about the Passion)....I could go on and on.

3. REM is sexy. 

I think Monster is the sexiest album. Tongue and * Me Kitten are the soundtrack to seduction.

4. REM is romantic. 

What is sexy without Romance? The entire REM catalogue is full of love songs, often in clever disguises. My favorites? Nightswimming, and At Your Most Beautiful.

5. REM is folksy.

Peter Buck on the Mandolin, songs about the working class (Wecome to the Occupation, Odd Fellows Local 151, Day Sleeper), not to mention the general folklore that surrounds the band.

I listened to Green twice through on my wedding day while I was confined to a bedroom so that no one would see me. I hadn’t listened to the album in a while because I had lost the CD. My fiance had recently downloaded it on to my laptop. You are Everything is a song I will always associate with that day.

"I think about this world a lot and I cry
And I've seen the films and the eyes
But I'm in this kitchen
Everything is beautiful
And she is so beautiful
She is so young and old
I look at her and I see the beauty
Of the light of music
The voices talking somewhere in the house
Late spring and you're drifting off to sleep
With your teeth in your mouth
You are here with me
You are here with me
You have been here and you are everything"

I was given Collapse in to Now as a gift from my husband for my thirty fourth birthday. Our son was six weeks old. I felt like a teenager again, in that I was actually experiencing new emotions for the first time in a long time. I felt an intense love for this beautiful creature we had produced and I felt an intense responsibility to be a good mother and a good person and to treat everyone with with newfound feeling of love, since everyone is someone’s baby. I also felt what extreme sleep deprivation was like. I immediately loved the songs on this album and it became the soundtrack to new motherhood. I would take my son on long walks and listen to it on my ipod when he fell asleep in the carriage.

The last song on the album is a sublime and climactic ending to their discography. While I am disappointed there is not a farewell tour I realize that it is part of their mystique. They are going out in style and have left us with a beautiful final installment, Collaspse in to Now.  And that is what I intend to do.

"This is my time and I am thrilled to be alive.Living.  Blessed.  I understand.20th Century, Collapse in to now."

Shoe Shopping

Today I went shopping for the shoes I will be wearing on my wedding day. I’d been window shopping and intentionally walking past the shoes in Nordstrom every time I cut through the store to get out of the cold and drizzle. However, today was the day I was officially going to make a purchase. I had seen a few pairs I liked at Nordstrom, but the thought dawned on me - why not go to the Payless three blocks away from Nordstom? After all, I was buying a pair of shoes I would probably only wear a few times in my life. As Payless was on the block where I got off the bus, it was my first stop.

As soon as I’d started browsing, the sales lady told me that everything in the store was -buy one get one half off! A lot of the shoes were only $14. I tried on a pair of white man-made-material sling backs that would make my (or anyone’s) feet sweaty and stinky, and a pair of too-tall silver heels that actually did look great. The whole time, however, this dirty feeling was washing over me. I had not gone into a Payless in at least ten years. There is no reason why a pair of shoes should cost $14. Ever. It seems like just the raw materials to make them should cost $14. When you add in shipping the raw materials to China, paying the Chinese Workers, shipping the shoes to the US, distributing then to different part of the US via truck, paying the sales people, and all the other expenses of running a store, $14. for a pair of shoes seems ridiculously low. Someone is getting screwed and by buying the shoes I am the person doing the screwing. $14. shoes make people forgot that the shoes were made out of materials from the earth by a poor person in another country. $14 shoes make people think that shoes are disposable and that it is okay to have 30 pairs in your closet. Of course, I am not naive enough to think that the distribution of money for a pair of $70 or $200 heels is much different. I don’t believe that the Chinese workers get paid more or that the materials are bought for a fair price or that they are shipped on a boat fueled by an Italian designer peddling a bike with solar panels. The more expensive shoes do, however, reinforce in me that the things we buy should be cherished and intended for long term use. To regard the things we buy as disposable crap is do disrespect the fellow humans that gave them to us - for cheap. I don’t mean to express that we should all dress like like the Amish. I love clothes and shoes and hair thingies and jewelry, but there is no need to constantly buy new things within the structure of a system that screws people over so we can get things for cheap. Woman can find great things at thrift stores, having clothing exchanges with their friends, or buy clothes from independent stores where your dollar will go the the right hands. That said, I do shop at several clothing stores that feature local designers, but I can not think of a way to acquire shoes in the same way. I don’t want to sound like a crazy lady who makes everything out to be some huge moral dilemma, but I certainly do not want to be a person who doesn’t give a fuck. On top of being forced to entertain my moral dilemma, some really irritating hip hop that made me feel like I was at my seventh grade dance was playing. I had too leave.

Since I was out shopping I went to look at earrings and hair accessories for the big day at another store. After purchasing some hair clips I went to a few other shoe stores and did not even try anything on. Walking around downtown I looked down at my trusty boots and pondered why this was such a daunting task. It is probably because I rarely were heels. I can’t help but feel that a woman in wobbly three inch heels is to a mugger what a mouse smeared with tuna is to a hungry cat.

Finally I went to Nordstrom and tried on the shoes I had been admiring in both silver and gold. They had looked more sturdy than the Payless shoes I tried on, but upon trying to walk in them I I realized they were not sturdy at all. Mainly because they were way too high. I ankles hurt from just standing in them. The salesman had also brought out some other shoes he thought I’d like.

Normally I would be annoyed by this, but the last time I bought shoes at Nordstrom, which was also the only time I’ve bought shoes at Nordstrom, the sales woman, who obviously understood my sense of style, brought out some shoes for my that she had picked out. I had seen the same shoes on display and thought - oh hooker shoes. When I tried them on I realized they were actually librarian-hooker shoes. I love the look of juxtapositioning the stylistic elements of street walker and guardian of the Dewey Decimal system. I ended up buying that pair instead of the shoes I had picked out myself. Today the sales person did not really seem to know what I was looking for and brought out two additional pairs of shoes I did not like at all. I tried on one pair and told him that the other pair, which were probably four and a half inches high, were just too high. I thanked the man and told him that I was going to continue shopping but that the first pair was on my list. He asked me if I wanted to put them on hold and I didn’t have the heart to say no, so I put them on hold with no intention of buying them and headed back to Payless.

The same lady that told me about the buy one get one half off sale was the still there and the hootchie cootchie music was still playing. I tried on the shoes I had tried before. After trying on the Nordstrom shoes the silver heels seemed sturdy enough and not that really all that high. For the record they were $19. and were made in Vietnam, so if you reread this please mentally insert Vietnam and Vietnamese worker every time you see China and Chinese worker.  I headed home in my sturdy, "don't fuck with me" boots with my purchase in hand, still feeling more like and ugly American than a pretty bride.

Ryan

Ryan sat with all the punk kids at lunch.  They did this thing where every few minutes one of them would yell out "penis" in some barely understandable way.  Sometimes it was a high pitched falsetto of a penis, other times a Louis Armstrong through three destortion peddles type of penis.  My favorite was the penis exclaimed so quickly that you weren't sure if someone had just yelled out "penis" or if it was a figment of your imagination.  "pns!"

He was the second boy I kissed.  I kissed him in the back of a car when I was fifteen and his mouth tasted like bubble gum.  Just thinking of it gives me that first kiss feeling that I stopped being able to get through kisses.  It turned in to the getting felt up feeling and then the getting felt down feeling.  Then it turned into the sex feeling and then it stopped being a feeling at all.  

Afterward he wanted to be my boyfriend.  He wanted to carry my books and talk to me in school, but I was not ready for him.  I was in National Honor Society and had all my theatre and choir friends.  I may have been a geeke, but he was a loser.  He smoked pot and yelled out "penis" in the lunch room.  

I like him though.  He wore faded jeans that he had drawn tiny sperm all over with marker and took art and study hall (only losers take study hall!).  He had this huge white boy fro and sometimes he straightened and slicked it back.  When he did this I referred to him as "Crisco" to all my nerdy theatre friends.  Despite my making fun of him I wanted to be like him and probably be with him.  I spent hours after school painting sets in an effort to kiss the aspiring director turned suburban English teacher's butt in an effort to one day actually get the lead in the musical.  Ryan didn't kiss anyone's butt, except maybe mine.  He did not do things having only ulterior motives.  He was pure.  My senior year I started having the slow realization I would never by the star of the play.  I would never be a laughing happy high school girl going to the mall with her friends, and I would never be courted by the college bound theatre boy (mainly because they were all queer).  I would have periods of weeks or months where I wrote in my journal three times a day and dressed grunge.  Sometimes I would put little braids in the front of my hair with beads at the end.  Ryan stopped me in the hall and told my he liked my hair that way.

I never got the lead in my musical and I went to my prom with some doofis I didn't like.  He was stupid.  Then I went away to college and became what I wanted to be.  I became like Ryan and found a boyfriend like Ryan.  I majored in classical voice, but I was not like most of the sweet choir girls in my department.  My boyfriend was a C student who ultimately flunked out after three semesters (we broke up the middle of second semester) .  We were drunk together constantly.  I learned to play guitar and and wrote horrible poetry that I recited at the local poetry slam.  The end of that relationship led to pot and more of the bad boys I had yearned for in high school and had been afraid of.  I did not come back to my high school town until the summer after my sophemore year, when I was 20.

I wanted some pot, and as I had been Miss Mary Sunshine (with an inner darkness waiting to come out and dance a wicked tango), I had no idea who I could get it from - except Ryan.  I called him and we smoked up a bunch of times that summer.  He told me that the first time I called him he was afraid I was a narc.  We had some debaucherous moments that summer, but I never entertained the idea of having him as a boyfriend.  He was a drug dealer and worked at the gas station.  I was extremely depressed that summer and all my memories from those three months are foggy.  What we had wasn't pure because neither of us was in a place of mental purity or good intentions. (As a side note, I stopped smoking pot long ago because people who are already paranoid, anxious, afraid of being eaten by the couch and riddled with guilt for having the occasional unproductive day should really not be smoking weed.),

After I graduated from college I was reunited with one of the now out of the closet theatre guys from high school whom I had intentionally lost touch with.  We got an apartment together in Berwyn, a suburb just outside of Chicago.  One day I was walking down the street and I heard a guy yell my name out of a car window.  The car pulled over.  Ryan was one of the passengers in the car.  He lived in a nearby suburb, Stickney (which people called Stinky because the sewage sanatation plant was located there, which I'm sure made for cheap rent).  He clearly wasn't in good shape.  I could tell the drug dealing wasn't just a brief stop on his career ladder.  Just as I was this Bohemian in high school, hiding under a preppy girl mask, I was now and will always be this preppy judgmental girl hiding in thrift store clothes and a nose ring.  We would never be compatible.   I told my roomate what had happened and he said, "oh, Crisco!"  

Then next year we moved into the city and a few years later I moved to the West Coast.  I never saw Ryan again.  The funny thing is that high school was not the first time I met him.  The summer before I was in seventh grade I was sleepying over at some girls house and he was her next door neighbor.  We had never gone to school together because I had just moved to to the town.  The next year we still did not meet since I went to the junior high and he went to the Elementary school.  He looked way younger than his age, and seem extremely sensitive, smart, and fragile.  He had a pet duck that he kept in his back yard.  I remember we had  chemistry then, but I didn't understand what it was since I was only 12.  Fate had brought us together four times in the late 80's and 90's.

Now it is easy to find people from your past.  There is all this technology that has created a world where people who were supposed to stay in your past don't.  Regrets about losing someone don't exist because we don't permanently lose them anymore.  I have a strong enough belief in fate to believe we kept meeitng over an over for a reason, but I am not going to look for him.  If we need to speak again I'm sure we will find each other in the same time and place, if not, we have learned everything we can from each other.  

Dirty Old Men I Have to Wait On

The hostess came over to me to let me know that they wanted a Bud Light and a Sam Adams. I went over to table 15 to clarify what they really wanted, as the Bud Light on draft comes in two sizes and we carry, or at least once carried two varieties of Sam Adams. They were old, confused by my question, and generally unappreciative of me taking the extra time to make sure they were getting exactly what they wanted. Fine.


Upon bringing them their drinks I proceeded to attempt to take their order. The man on the left ordered a rib eye medium rare with a "baked butata". I apologized and pointed out that we do not have baked potatoes. The steaks come with mashed butatas. If he would like he could substitute French fries or extra vegetables or a small salad. After much confusing dialogue he came to the conclusion that he wanted the steak, fries, and a salad. To further clarify I asked if he wanted the salad instead of the vegetables and somehow came to the conclusion he wanted steak, fries, vegetables, and a salad - with blue cheese dressing. I asked the man on the right and he said he wanted "the same". Knowing he did not really understand what "the same" was I read back exactly what Dirty Old Man #1 (from now on we'll call them DOM1 and DOM2) wanted and it turned out that DOM 2 did not really want the same. He wanted a rib eye cooked medium rare with mashed butatas, vegetables and some sour cream and chives. He did not want a salad. Before finally leaving the table the two men asked me if I was from England or Australia, because of my accent of course. Not quite sure where were getting this from (I do not have an accent - except maybe a Chicago accent or generic Midwestern accent) I simply assured them that I was indeed American. "You've never lived in England or Australia?" DOM1 asked. "No, never been to either". At this point I had been neglecting three other tables answering stupid questions and over clarifying everything because I knew they were confused, sensed they would be unsatisfied when their food arrived, and wanted to cover my back by confirming several times that they knew what they were ordering.

Speaking of Midwestern accents: let me describe the pair of DOM in question. They both had the speech patterns of sort of a Midwestern Tony Soprano. (I later concluded that by asking me if I were British they were making fun of me for having good grammar). They were probably in their late sixties, but aging badly. They may have been in their seventies. Initially I was not sure if they were drunk or just rude and slightly senile. (By the way - as a person who has waited tables for years I can tell you that trying to order something that is not on the menu and assuming that all restaurants have baked butatas is a dirty old man norm. So is talking down to woman in general. Especially women who are waitresses, but more on that later.)

I dealt with the three other tables I had kept waiting and put the DOM's order in. While I was taking care of the other tables the server who was working room service ran DOM1's salad. He reported back to me that they were confused and neither remembered ordering a salad. He said they were "really wasted". I still thought they were just rude and senile.

Finally I bring their graciously modified order and asked them is they need anything else.

The busser tells me that they asked her for another round of beers. Now I am starting to think they are a bunch of drunks, as the beers they have are half full. If they don't remember ordering a salad they are not going to remember ordering beer - I hope. I would rather ignore the request than start a confrontation by cutting them off. I knew these guys were trouble and I was not about to incriminate my self my over serving them before they started trouble. And what sort of asshole orders beer from a busser when they still have half a beer? It's not like I was ignoring them.

I go over to the table to check on them, knowing I was really going into a dirty old man battlefield. Ah the stench of Aqua Velva, the iron like strength of the baked butata. What could I do but wear a shit-eating waitress grin as they complained about the food that came exactly AS THEY ORDERED IT. "Can you send someone over here who speaks good English?" At first I thought they were making a reference to the busser, who does speak English as a second language. Then I realized they were talking about me. Because I speak Australian. I assured them that I could help them. "What is wrong with this," ejaculated DOM2, looking down at a the fleshy pink rib eye he had cut into. There was nothing wrong with it. When he had ordered "the same" as DOM1 he was ordering his steak cooked medium rare. I had made sure he really wanted it medium rare. "Why don't you tell me what is wrong with it and we can fix it." What else could I say? Nothing was wrong with it. "What does this look like to you?" asked DOM2. I decide to play his game, realizing that he did not want his steak medium rare, as he had ordered it. Looking at the steak it looked between medium and medium rare. I initially thought he was going to say it was overcooked, but now I was wondering if he thought it was undercooked. This guy was trash. Waiting tables makes you very classist about food. As a rule, upper-class people tend to order meat on the rare side. They choose a vinaigrette dressing, and if they must have a cream based dressing it is blue cheese - or better yet Roquefort. Well done meat and ranch is the other side of the coin.

In response to his question I say "it looks on the rare side of medium to me," thinking he did not remember what temp he had actually ordered it be. "How would you like it cooked?" I asked, getting to the point, as I had other tables that deserve better service than these guys. After concluding that he wanted it medium I take it to the kitchen to have it refired. Before doing this I show it to the manager on duty to make sure I am not crazy. After all, I probably haven't eaten red meat since I've was seventeen, so I did have it checked to make sure my judgment wasn't totally off. Because I am a good server.

Meanwhile, DOM1 eats his food and the area around the table looks like there should be a few highchairs at the table. These dirty old men are messy eaters. I guess they have forgotten about the beer. Good. While we wait for the refire there is a discussion about whether or not they are really drunk or senile. All parties involved who have interacted with the table have differing opinions. The manager kindly offers to bring the refire and make sure everything is okay. Supposedly it is. A few minutes later I check up to make sure everything is okay. At this point DOM1 has left and DOM2 asked for that beer he ordered. "I'm, sorry, but it is the policy of the restaurant that can not serve a guest who is already intoxicated." It felt good. Infact, it felt better than good. He wasted my time, wasted the kitchen's time, made fun of my exotic accent that I don't have, made a mess and was just an ass in general. It was his turn to be embarrassed.

Incase my boss should ever read this I would also like to state that it actually is the policy of the state of Washington (and the restaurant I work at that shall remain nameless) that intoxicated guests not be served. If the guest injures himself in a drunken toe stub, causes a car accident, or grabs the hostesses' boob, the restaurant can legally be held liable, face huge fines, and potentially be shut down. The pure glee I felt in cutting the fucker off was in the best interest of the restaurant and in the spirit of being a good American citizen. Hooray for me - a responsible employee proudly doing her civic duty to protect my employer, all drivers and pedestrians, and the hot hostess from bodily harm!

I dropped the checked and started cleaning up the huge mess the slob had made. I was nervous about him starting a confrontation and I knocked over a glass that still had some water in it. "It looks like you are the one who is intoxicated," slurred DOM2. "I can assure you I am not", I casually replied. He paid with a credit card and did not tip. Before he left he asked if the restaurant was "owned by Hindus or Pakistanis". I assured him it was owned by a Caucasian gentleman such as himself.

Between the two beers and the two steaks they made my sales go up to the point where I had to tip out the hostess and extra dollar and the bartender an extra dollar. For all my unrewarded asskissing and grief I LOST TWO DOLLARS ON THE TABLE.

To add insult of injury, DOM2 emailed the hotel's Director of Food and Beverage to complain about me. I did not see this coming, as I can not believe this guy knows how to use email. To bad he had not sent snail mail, as the return address would have indicated that he lived in either the baboon house or a nursing home for alcoholics. She sent him a gift card for a free meal. What the fuck.

So, to reiterate the story, they were rude to the hostess, made fun of me, insulted me and wasted my time, wasted the kitchen's time, bothered the busser, made a mess, caused the other tables in the restaurant to have bad service, made a racist comment, cost me two dollars, caused me a whole lot of anxiety and stress and now they are getting a free meal. Living in a society that continually rewards people for bad behavior is disgusting. Shouldn't our goal to be to build of a clientele that is polite and likes the kind of food we have as we prepare it. Shouldn't our goal be to have a clientele that can cut themselves off instead of being obnoxious to the point were their server has to cut them off? (Believe me - polite charming drunks don't get cut off.) Shouldn’t we want patrons who DON’T cause the rest of the customers to get sucky service by being obnoxious and ridiculously high maintenance? I guess not. They were a bunch of stinking racist dirty old men who developed their ideas of how women should be treated during the Eisenhower administration. To them a waitress is probably right next to a hooker. May they suffocate on their own aqua velva fumes.

Proboscis

Lydia brushed her silky black hair an applied a layer of cherry lip gloss. It was April and the cherry blossoms were in bloom. A gentle spring breeze blew in through the bathroom window. This was the time of year for drinking side cars or manhattans on the porch. This was the time of year to put lilac petals in one’s bath water. This was the time of year for love making between all creatures that inhabited the earth. Lydia knew that the seduction was soon to begin.

Lydia walked with bare feet across the red shag carpeting and looked into her tank. Lucky’s body was asphyxiated to the front of the tank. On one of the side walls the mischievous Proboscis rested next to Bogey’s lean body. Pricilla’s curvaceous body was attached to the back of the tank. Although leeches are hermaphrodites, Pricilla clearly had a figure that warranted a female name. The clitellum of all four of Lydia’s darlings was visible. They were ready and so was Lydia.

Stan would be at the apartment any minute. Lydia took the baby quiche out of the oven and dimmed the lights. She turned on the lamp with the red bulb and the fringed lamp shade. Looking through her records, Lydia could not decide what to put in. Surely Stan would be wearing his blue suede shoes for this occasion. She put on some Elvis. Proboscis slithered along the wall of the tank as Heart Break Hotel echoed around the apartment. “I feel so lonely, I feel so lonely, I feel so lonely I could cry…..”

There was a knock on the door. Before Lydia could even offer a cocktail or baby quiche Stan took her in a mad embrace and began unbuttoning her blouse. Stan’s blue suede shoes were the last thing to come off.

Two hours later Lydia and Stan lay on the red shag carpet sipping Manhattans and eating the quiche. Lydia rubbed her hand across Stan’s chest and over the horse shoe tattoos on his biceps. They gazed over at the tank where there were now two cocoons attached to the glass. Certainly the leeches were as famished as Lydia and Stan. Lydia gently pried the leeches from the walls of the tank and put them in her net. She placed Bogey and Proboscis on her right thigh while Pricilla and Lucky gently suckled Stan’s belly. Soon there would be even more leeches.

Grace

We emerged together
Leaving blood on our mother's legs
You came out first - purple and screaming
I followed you - I was the same
We learned to love our new world and our new bodies
The sweet air we breathed, the colours and the lights
The cream, the sugar, and all the delights

What did you do it? Why were you so alone?
Why are you here when your sister has gone home?

I was stirring the nectar with a cinnomon stick
When I heard you left.

Eyeliner tubes and silver shoes
Water to honey to curdled gloom
I was waiting for your tantrum to end
But not this way.

Where are your clenched fists and dark irises now?
Who cleaned your closet/paid your bills
Made the calls/tried to make good of this ill willed autumn?

A memorial in the park
A memorial for a friend
A farewell for a woman who chose the sea
Who chose to flee to be found
And didn't find
Or maybe found too much.

On a warm September day a girl was laid to rest
In state she'd never lived in
And a state she was bound to return to
Michigan and Grace.

Charleston

Charleston, Illinois is full of hippy huts. They are run down rickety old wooden houses with decaying porches and Indian tapestries hanging in the windows. The less ornate hippy huts have bed sheets dangling from the curtain rods. One might see a chia pet or plastic cups from last weekend’s keg party on the porch. I always enjoyed the town in the autumn, when it was overcast and rainy. The gray weather seemed to make the poverty that results in cracked sidewalks, run down houses, and overgrown lawns seem somehow romantic. Of course, this was romantic to the students like me. We were not poor, we were Bohemian. We could still go back.

My fondest memories of Charleston are of the house I lived in during 1998 and 1999 with my boyfriend and three other friends. The carpet in the living room permanently smelled of beer and cigarettes from the parties we would have. Like all college houses, our furniture consisted of items that we were given, bought at the thrift store, or simply found. Our couch was a formerly bright orange, now dingy, piece from the seventies that my boyfriend had rescued from his parent’s attic. The house we rented did have a garage, but the two roommates that had cars just parked in the driveway. We used the garage for recreation.

There was a period of that year when swing music was really popular. It was around the time when that Brian Setzer Orchestra album came out and you could hear “Zoot Suit Riot” by the Cherry Poppin’ Daddies on the radio. Suddenly every bar, even the white trash dive bars in my college town, had a swing dancing and martini night. My housemate, Chris, had bought a bunch of Lounge and Swing CDs. Amidst all of this we christened our garage The Swantkatorium. The last tenants had left two couches, a stand up bar, and carpeting in the The Swankatorium. Then we added our own touches. We hung strings of Christmas lights and brought an old stereo out. The room was for talking, listening to music, playing guitar, drinking, and hanging out with friends. One night a strip poker game took place there. That was the last place I lived in Charleston. I only keep in touch with one of my housemates. She is married, has been to every continent with the exception of Antarctica, and has Masters Degree now. I broke up with my boyfriend, Phil, shortly after I graduated. Seven years later, he is still with the girlfriend he met a few months later. I know that Mike, like myself, moved back to the Chicago area. I saw him once about a year later. We didn’t have much in common anymore. The last I heard about Chris is that he got into some pretty seedy legal trouble and dropped out of school. I don’t want to go into great detail. I really liked him.

The town felt the saddest to me in the summertime. I stayed twice for summer school. There were far less students in the summer and the town felt more impoverished than Bohemian. The summers in Illinois are humid and hot with little rain, often leaving the grass scorched and yellow by July. The second summer I stayed, I subletted a room in a house close to downtown Charleston. When I think of that summer Neil Young is the soundtrack. The smell that comes to mind is the earth skunk aroma of pot. I remember constantly getting flat tires on the bike I used to ride to campus everyday and an overwhelming sense of lonliness. The summertime was when one really felt the hostility the locals had toward all the students living off their parent’s cash, who were just there to go to school for a few years. They were an ever revolving cast of characters in hipper clothes with hipper attitudes. Most of them would go back up north when they were finished, like I did.

I returned to Charleston two times after I graduated. The first time was on the way back to Chicago after a roadtrip to New Orleans. I was with my friend Ana, who I had gone to school with. Neither of us had been back there in years. We walked around campus in the snow and went to the library, which had been completely renovated. There were not many students since it was winter break. We drove to the town square, which seemed to have completely new stores every two years due to the evil big box store on the outskirts of town. One of the businesses that was always there was the pawnshop (good thing Wal-Mart does not have a pawn section). I bought a copy of REM's Out of Time on CD, as the original copy I bought in high school was on cassette tape and needed to be replaced.

The next time I returned was on a spring day a bit over a year later. I had drove down from Chicago to play a show at a coffee house downtown that had not been there when I was a student. I got there a few hours before the show, so I walked around the campus. This time school was in session. Even when I went there it always made me sad how many people stayed in their dorm rooms and watched TV instead of going outside. I went to the garden outside of the Life Sciences building and played guitar for awhile. Once again, I went to the library. As fond as the memories of my Bohemian life in Charleston are, I was reminded that it really is a conservative school. On the bulletin boards there were as many signs for ROTC recruitment and the bible study at the Baptist church as there were for POWER (People Organized For Women's Rights and Equality), or the weekly poetry slam at the coffee house. In retrospect I appreciate that I went to a school where if you were a freak - you really were a freak.

Before the show I went to one of my old bars. I always hung out at the bars in the downtown area. The three bars downtown were filled with townies, professors, and the punk and hippy crowds from the University. The bars closer to campus attracted more of a frat boy crowd. It was early and there were not many people there. The bartender and most of the people there were too old to be students, but too young to be professors. They seemed like the type of people who moved to Charleston to go to school and then never left. I wondered what my life would be like if I had stayed in Charleston.

That night, after the show, the barista who had booked the show let me sleep on the couch in his hippy hut. The was a nice hippy hut - the curtains were Indian tapestries. The bathroom walls were essentially a shrine to the household's hatred of George W. Bush. I wondered what it was like to go to to college during a war time. I realized that I was in a different generation than the inhabitants of this house, despite being only six or seven years older. My formative years had been the nineties.

Part of me will always live in a hippy hut in Charleston, with a chia pet on the front porch, and beer cups from last night's keg party in the yard. Some of it's windows are draped with Indian tapestries, and a few are adorned with old bedsheets. Part of me will always sleep on a futon mattress on the floor. In a world were it gets more and more difficult to feel a sense of place, part of me still lives in this small Central Illinois town, and this part of me curious, haunted, mesmerized, and optimitic about the future.

Her Majesty

It is Tuesday and Abbey Road is the only thing keeping me from a total melt down at work. Why can’t I be happy having a mundane and unfulfilling job if it keeps me housed and fed. Everyone else seems to be. No, that is not what I want. So I let myself feel the angst of a corporate day job while one the greatest albums of all time reminded me that the world is indeed a beautiful place, but I was not ready for the last song on the album, Her Majesty.

Her majesty’s a pretty nice girl but she doesn’t have much to say,
Her majesty’s a pretty nice girl but she changes from day to day,
I want to tell her that I love her a lot but I’ve got to get a belly full of wine,
Her majesty’s a pretty nice girl,
Someday I’m gonna make her mine,
Someday I’m gonna make her mine…….
Benjamin sent me those lyrics in an email when I was eighteen. It was pretty fitting. At the time I didn’t have much to say and I didn’t say what I did have to say. He wanted to make me his, but I wasn’t his to be had. I had too much exploring I needed to do on my own. It ended badly and he got really into drugs and dropped out of college. He stuck around our college town though. Sometimes I would go see his band play or ask people who knew him how he was. I was a psycho stalker even back then. When I was 22 I ran into a guy that had lived in the room next to his freshman year and ended up managing his band. He told me that Benjamin had recently mysteriously disappeared and no one knew where he went. I graduated and moved out of our college town and got on with my life, but I always wondered what happened to him. I imagined that he might have died. Maybe he commited suicide or overdosed. Back in college I had heard rumors that he had gotten married, but I didn’t believe them. For years I found myself googling his name, but he has a common last name and it was useless. I never found anything until last year, ten years after our relationship had begun and ended. I found his blog and then I started reading it everyday. It did not have a lot of information about his personal life, but I was able to conclude that he had gotten married, and he did get married when he was only 20. His blog was pretty much his commentary on politics and pop culture.  His pop culture commentary often revolved around the same geek boy things he was into in college – Bat Man, Star Trek. (Even hard drug using rocker guys can never escape their inner geek.) He appears to be happily married and still living in Central Illinois.

He was the man that made me break on through to the other side, so to speak, in so many ways. From reading his blog it seemed liked I ended up going even further than he did. I left the town, and then the state. I’ve had many relationships since him and he married his second girlfriend. What does that say about either of us? I really don’t know. When I first found the blog I was sad because a part of me will always love him and I couldn’t help but think that if we met now it would work out great. As much as I do not believe in souls mates, I always thought of him as my soul mate because he was my first love. A substantial amount of people end up with their first love, never exploring the possibility that there could be others. Never exploring the possibility that being alone is healthy and normal. We loved in a fierce, needy, desperate, and generally fucked up way, but as much as I denied it then, I now acknowledge that needy, desperate, fucked up love is still love, even if it is not the kind of love I seek. That is why I broke up with him eleven years ago and that is why I am single now.

He really did regard me as being his majesty though, and I’d like to think that I’m still a pretty nice girl despite all the additional layers of personality I’ve acquired.

Jackson Square (part 5 of a larger work)

Memory: We are driving through Alabama at night. Susana thinks it would be fun to drive topless. She takes her shirt and bra off and then holds the steering wheel while I do the same. Two exits later she declares that she has to go to the bathroom and asks if we can get off at the next exit.

In my memory the sky is full of stars. I don't know if the sky was full of stars for real.

The truth is that I had stopped missing her by the time she died.            I remember riding the bus to work that day after I’d gotten that disturbing email from D.J. I knew something terribly bad had happened. I couldn’t believe someone had actually done it. All my friends are depressed. I am depressed. But no one ever does it. We all just channel our despair into art. We drown it in a cheap bottle of wine with a pretty label and smother it the thrill of a new lover. We feel guilty for feeling terrible despite the fact that we are fed, housed, and physically healthy. We feel confused that we’ve become successful at crafts that seem to be fueled by this despair. And we feel despair over that fact that becoming happy will make us less creative and shatter our entire sense of identity. Maybe I am really just referring to myself. I am selfish like that.

     

I was sitting in one of the seats that faces sideways, watching Chicago Avenue pass by. I knew it was true. I started crying, but looking back I do not know why. Who was I crying for? Me? Her? The world? I had written D.J. back and told him to call me after 9PM – Central Time. I needed to be at home and alone for whatever was coming. I thought of that morning I’d spent with her in New Orleans.

We had gotten up early on New Year's Eve and went to get some breakfast at Jackson Square. On the way to the restaurant we passed a palm reader who said he was giving an early bird special - two for one. He said he'd give us a comparative reading, where he compared both of our hands. He was not as new agey as other readers I'd been to in that he constantly referred to the scientific reasons for the development of certain lines. For example, he said that having deep life line was the result of having had clenched fists while in utero. He said that babies with a strong will to live clench their fists, even before they are born. Throughout the rest of life passionate people continue to do this as a physical sign of desire and distress, causing a deep, long crease to develop. He looked at both of our life lines and told us that I would live longer. He also compared our hands and said that I would have many lovers and significant relationships. Susana, however, would only have one true love. When it was all over there would only be one man that really mattered. After we left Susana told me that she always knew she would die at a young age. I really didn't think much of it at the time. I tend to think that people put way too much emphasis on the quantity of their lives, rather that the quality. Having a life of adventure and then leaving behind a pretty corpse did not seem like a terrible plan at the time. Wasting one’s youth working at a mundane job and then dying in a sterile room with tubes and ventilators seemed far worse, like a living death.

Should I have been alarmed by what she said? Back then time moved slowly. I was 25 and she was only 23. We still had a long time to me young. Time does not move that slowly anymore.

John the Doctor (part 3 of a larger work)

Thursday night: Susana puts on a little red dress. We are going out to the martini bar with John the doctor. He is some guy she was having sex with before she took off for the West Coast. He is not really a doctor, just a medical student. He will be driving three hours to see her. “Jennifer, I don’t know if you will like him. He is totally not your type. He’s a really cheesy romantic guy – he opens car doors for me and gives me ridiculous complements….but he’s such a good lover”. I am listening to her, trying not to be judgmental. She has a boyfriend back in Portland, but supposedly it’s an open relationship, open on her end at least. “He fucks me just right. It’s like he’s really forceful and just takes charge but he’s really gentle too. It’s the best.” There was some silence as I basked in my slight jealousy. “He’s a total yuppie – you won’t like him”.

John the doctor shows up with heart shaped boxes of chocolates – for both of us. Susana was right in her description of him, but he brought us chocolate and I can appreciate that. We go to the martini bar and drink $7.00 cocktails with ridiculous names while we wait for my date to arrive. We are drinking, smoking, seeing people and being seen. The marginally employed musician I am dating shows up and orders a beer and a tequila. I’m sure our brief relationship will fizzle out by the end of the month, but it is nice to have a date for Valentine’s Day. It is nice to compete with Susana.

When we get back to the apartment I go to bed and let Susana and John the doctor do whatever they need to do in the living room. In the morning he is gone.

Friday: During the day we took red line to China Town. We see a beautiful young Chinese woman standing outside a building. She is wearing one of those tight shiny dresses with a mandarin collar. One tear streams down her cheek; the whole scene is totally surreal. It is as if we are watching a movie. Three Navy guys wearing those silly crackerjack uniforms leave the building. We realize that we are in front of a brothel.

That evening Nick comes over. He has driven two hours to see her before she leaves town. He is very nice. Too nice for her. Susana had told me the story of how they met. Susana had been living in his college town the summer before last. She went to a bar with the intention of finding someone to have sex with. She liked to have “goals” when she went out. She said it was an exercise in exploring feminism. It was probably more an exercise in exploring her perimeters, her ability the shut off her emotions, and a good practice session in becoming the femme fatale she eventually turned into. Nick was sitting alone at the bar. The interaction is hard for me to imagine, but according to Susana, she simply sat down next to him and said “will you have sex with me”. He nervously responded, “Okay”, and they went back to her apartment. It turned out he was a virgin.

I first became aware of the frightening power Susana had over men that weekend. I knew that Nick was totally devoted to Susana, so was John the doctor, so was her boyfriend. She knew no devotion. She wanted someone to worship her and look good on her arm. Everything else she could get from her female friends or herself. Sometimes I think she did not like men at all.

Before she left her and John the doctor met for one last good fuck. I realized that I barely knew her. I wanted to get know better. And I would.

Three Love Poems

I. Fish

Your hands and feet are pinned down

I will split you open with my sterile tools

It won’t hurt at all

You smell like vinegar and formaldehyde

You are perfectly preserved.

I will make my incisions clean and straight

I will not leave jagged edges

I will take out your stomach and then cut it open

To see what is inside

Baby Fish!

It looks like you swallowed them whole

What a hungry boy you are!

They are perfectly preserved

Except for the eyes.

Before the bell rings

I will gently pick up your organs with tweezers

And put them back in place

I am careful to cover you up with plastic

Now that you have been cut open you will surely start to stink.

II. Twenty-five minutes in the South

Close your eyes to twenty-five minutes in the South

It is night

It is hot

There are corn fields on both sides

Your insides are liquid

You are drunk on love

And sick on love’s sickness

You will heave any moment

Pass out in a sweet delirium

And wake up in a crusty hung over mess

No longer South

Did you find what you were looking for?

In your day dream journey?

You went to bed heavy

And woke up light of head and still heavy of body

It rained molasses and moonshine in our spring

And when the rain stopped

The sun backed us into brittle gingerbread children

Now it is summer

My secret drawer is full of snapped gingerbread parts

Arms that couldn’t reach and feet that couldn’t move

And heads that popped off

The heart goes last

Useless in it’s immobility

III. Sleeping Gypsy

My sleeping gypsy has a flask in his hip pocket

He does not rhyme

He does not cry

More Fonze than Buddha

He hated his hands

He could always touch but could never feel

He liked to put back a six pack before he saw his shrink

I watched you doze-sleepy eyes and twinkle toes

I took off your glasses and gently rolled you

I thought – this is what I want

You are full of fermented corn

Conspiracies are your brain porn

You sleeping body is warm and I don’t want to leave

I remember many hung over omelets sitting across from you

My head pounding – the gears cranking, grinding

Your excesses make me rust

I want to drown with you, but I still swim to well to follow you into the blue

My skinny land legs have many tales to tell

Of wading on your shore

Smelling the salt in your air

Smelling the rot that proceeds life that proceeds death that proceeds life.

We can sever each other’s limbs

Because we know we will regenerate

We are prickly and made of brilliant colored spines

We are decorative but not edible

Children don’t even know we’re alive

I let a sleeping gypsy into my bed

But I made sure to leave before he woke

He probably would have stayed

I’ll never know

Veronica and the Starling - Part I

One there was a little girl named Veronica. Everyday a beautiful black starling would tap on her window pain three times. The bird would sing her sweet songs and keep her company while she played with her dolls and did crossword puzzles (this Veronica was a smart one). One day Starling did not come to her window. He did not return the next day either. On the third day Veronica stuck her head out the window and yelled "Starling, oh starling, where are you???" The starling did not reply, but a new visitor did arrive. It was a fat black cat. "I am Fat Black Cat and I eat all things black; I have baked a pie full of starlings and eaten them all. HA HA HA!" Then Fat Black Cat scurried away.

Veronica went down to the breakfast nook to tell her mother. "Veronica honey, you know that starlings and fat black cats do not talk. And anyway, fat black cats do not have the motor skills to make a pie," mother replied as she unwrapped some frozen microwavable quiche, "one would need opposable thumbs to do that." Veronica's mother was clearly a woman of science. Veronica ran up to her room crying. She heard hear mother yell, "Honey, frozen quiche in 10 minutes! Don't be late for breakfast!" Veronica sat on her pink bed in despair. Fat Black Cat had eaten her best friend. What would she do?

Veronica thought the situation over. First, there was the possibility that Starling was still alive in Fat Black Cat’s stomach. She quickly ruled out that possibility. A bird could certainly survive being eaten by a whale. A whale has a huge cavernous body that a bird could live in for days. On top of that, the mild body chemistry of the plankton eating whale would not be so harmful to a strong bird like Starling. Sadly, Veronica knew that Starling could not survive being eaten by Fat Black Cat. Apart from the fact that his body was too small to give Starling adequate space and air, the stomach of the carnivorous cat is full of potent acid. Then there was the issue that, while a whale could swallow a bird whole, a cat would have to do some chewing. At least Starling had gone before she arrived in that volcano lava stomach.

The next issue was the choice between revenge and forgiveness. Certainly there was no point in just a nasty revenge. The karma would surely come back to her the future, maybe in seventh or eight grade. Experts say that the junior high years are some of the most important years developmentally. She did not want to deal with the bad karma of being a cat murderer, even if she was avenging the death of a friend. After all, just like that shirt at the mall said “An eye for an eye makes the work go blind.”

What about forgiveness? She could forgive Fat Black Cat, but then that nasty cat would never learn. The purpose of a penal system is not retribution; it is to reform the criminal so that he or she can go back to becoming a productive member of society. If she simply forgave Fat Black Cat he would certainly go on to gobble of other girl’s friends. This could not happen. Veronica knew she needed to devise a plan that would teach Fat Black Cat a lesson.

All day Veronica thought it over. By dinner she knew what she would do. Veronica finally left her room and went to the kitchen after mother called her for dinner. Dinner that night was canned peaches and chicken Kiev that was warm on the outside, but very cold on the inside. Why was all the food mother cooked hot on the outside and cold on the inside? When ever she stayed at friend’s houses for dinner the food was not like this. Certainly Starling’s mother had not fed him worms that were frozen in the center. She did not understand this. She would have to investigate further.

The next morning Veronica started her plan. She knew she had only 5 days to do it since it was late August and fourth grade would be starting next week. The first step was to capture Fat Black Cat. Since Fat Black Cat ate all things black she needed to gather up some black food to catch that hungry cat, but what was black anyway? Wasn’t black just other colors in a darker shade – so dark that the illusion of having no color is created? Veronica looked up black in Dictionary.com and found thirty definitions! They are as follows:

Adjective-

1. lacking in hue and brightness; absorbing light without reflecting any of the rays and composing it.

2. characterized by the absence of light; enveloped in darkness (ex- a black night)

3. (sometimes with a capitol letter) a. pertaining or belonging to any of the various populations characterized by dark skin pigmentation, specifically the dark-skinned peoples of Africa, Oceania, and Australia. b. African American

4. soiled or stained with dirt

5. gloomy: pessimistic; dismal (ex- a black outlook.)

6. deliberately; harmful; inexcusable (ex – a black lie)

7. boding ill; sullen or hostile; threatening (ex- black words; black looks)

8. (of coffee of tea) without milk or cream.

9. without any moral quality or goodness; evil; wicked. (ex – His black heart has concocted another black deed.)

10. indicating censure, disgrace, or a liability to punishment (ex – a black mark on one’s record)

11. marked by disaster or misfortune (ex- Black Friday)

12. wearing black or dark clothing or armor (ex – the black prince)

13. based on the grotesque, morbid, or unpleasant aspects of life (ex – black comedy, black humor)

14. (of a check mark, flag, ect) done or written in black to indicate, as on a list, that which is undesirable, sub-standard, potentially dangerous, etc.: Pilots put a black flag next to the ten most dangerous airports.

15. Illegal or underground.

16. showing a profit; not showing any losses: the first black quarter in two years

17. deliberately false or intentionally misleading: black propaganda

18. British. boycotted, as certain goods or products by a trade union

19. (of steel) in the form in which it comes from the rolling mill or forge; unfinished

noun-

20. the color at one extreme end of the scale of grays, opposite to white, absorbing all light incident upon it. Compare white (def. 19).

21. (sometimes initial capital letter) a. a member of any of various dark-skinned peoples, esp. those of Africa, Oceania, and Australia. b. African American

22. black clothing, esp. as a sign of mourning: He wore black at the funeral

23. Chess, Checkers. the dark-colored men or pieces or squares

24. black pigment: lamp black

25. Slang. black beauty.

26. a horse or animal that is entirely black

verb (used with object)-

27. to make black; put black on; blacken

28. British. to boycott or ban

29. to polish (shoes, boots, etc.) with blacking

verb (used without object)-

30. to polish (shoes, boots, etc.) with blacking

adverb

31. (of coffee or tea) served without milk or cream.

This was going to be a bigger job than she had expected. Thirty definitions and four parts of speech. Veronica decided to focus on the nouns first. After all, it is easier to eat an object than an action or an abstract idea. Upon looking over the noun definitions she found that this may not have been the best idea. The first noun definition was the color black itself, which can not be eaten. She looked at number two. There was only one African American girl at her school. She was very nice. Even if she was not nice, however, Veronica had no intention of asking her to wait to be eaten by a hungry mean cat. Finding a black horse was not an option either. The remaining three definitions did work, however. Veronica found a black checker piece, one of her dad’s black socks, and a black pen that she would be draining the ink out of when the time was right. Three food choices were just not enough though. It was clearly impossible to eat an action, but some of the adjective definitions may work. Obviously she could just feed the cat black colored food, what about all of these other meanings of black. Who knew what Fat Black Cat meant when he said “I eat all things black.” Cats are complex creatures.

Veronica decided to go over to her friend Fawn’s house. Fawn and her mom and six cats. On top of that Fawn’s mom was a college professor and was very smart. When Fawn opened the door it looked as if she had been dusting the book shelves. “My mom said that if I dust all the book cases I can watch one whole hour of television tonight! Maybe you can come over.” Veronica knew from past visits that the Fawn’s television was permanently set on that channel that always has the pledge drives. Ms. Morgan said that they lost the remote. “Fawn, your mom knows a lot about words and cats, right?” “Oh yeah, mom’s vocabulary is huge! Do you want to talk to her”? “Yes, I have a few questions.”

Ms. Morgan was in her office with the blinds drawn. “Ms. Morgan, can you eat an abstract idea”. “Well Veronica", she replied as she pushed up her glasses, "to quote Tom Robbins: 'To an artist a metaphor is as real as a dollar'. I would say that to the thinking woman or man an abstract idea is as real as any tangible object. One can certainly eat an abstract idea in a figurative sense.” “What about cats? Can cats eat abstract ideas in a figurative sense?” Ms. Morgan thought for a while. “Cats – yes. Dogs – no.”